
“Spend Your Money On Experiences, Not Things”
– Internet
How many times have you come across this line or some other version of it on the internet? You can surely thank the Tourism and Hospitality industry for it. After all, it’s this industry that makes a profit when you plan a trip to Dubai instead of buying the latest iPhone.
I have nothing against an industry making profits. My problem is how this World-dominating internet campaign of “Experiences over Things” has messed up our understanding of ‘Happiness’. The reality is, when you buy stuff, it surely does make you happy – be it a phone, a car, a gaming console, the latest gadget, or even a book! A further counter to this comes in the form of another (not-so) World-dominating internet campaign of ‘minimalism’. It preaches how you should live with the bare minimum and instead spend on, you guessed it, experiences! In its strongest form, minimalism can make you feel guilty for buying things and not experiences.
But, to think of it, aren’t experiences another form of materialism? Are you not stacking up your experiences by checking things off of your bucket list and collecting ‘bragging-rights-coins’? Although I must bring this up: experiences, just like things, surely do make you happy! So, why create an either-or relationship between things and experiences? It’s your money, and you should spend it on whatever you feel like, be it a brand new DSLR or a trip to the Phi Phi Islands.
Let’s Talk Happiness
Now, this blog would have safely ended here if I didn’t want to touch on the most important component of the equation – Happiness. The internet wants you to believe that people who buy experiences are happier than those who buy things (and the internet tells you that with a beautifully captured, color-corrected, and adequately photoshopped image of Santorini in the background).

Regardless of the image, isn’t happiness what we are all after? Isn’t happiness the one-word answer to heavyweight questions like – What’s the most important thing in life? Or what’s the purpose of your life? Happiness, being intangible, is difficult to measure, and thus we can’t be 100% sure if things or experiences bring more of it along. Now, this is where I want to bring in my perspective on happiness, and for full disclosure, it is heavily inspired by a lot of reading and watching that I have done over the years but most significantly by the 2011 documentary called Happy and the books Man’s Search for Meaning and Stumbling on Happiness.
What’s your default Happiness score?
All of us tend to have a default score of happiness. This is dependent on several factors, like our life events, family background, and upbringing, among others. So, if you are usually cheerful, on a 1 to 10 happiness scale (1 being least happy), you could have a default score of 6 in your day-to-day life. But if you usually feel stressed out and would rather watch an emotional melodrama instead of a comedy, your default score could be on the lower side. This default everyday score is who we are when it comes to happiness. Things or experiences can boost or cause a dip in these scores for a few days, weeks, or months, but eventually, you will come back to your default score. Eventually, the iPhone loses its novelty. Eventually, you forget all the details of that Dubai trip. Eventually, you get over your ex. Eventually, you get back to your default score. When they say, “Time heals all wounds,” this is the point of reference.
An important question here should be: how do we increase our default happiness score? More experiences or more things? None. If you missed the point, experiences and things are good for a short-term high. The aforementioned sources agree that the one thing that increases our default happiness score is – Helping Others.
The Ultimate Happiness – Helping Others

By selflessly helping others, we start to feel better about ourselves. We are elated that we have been able to bring about a difference. It helps us stay happier, more focused, and in fantastic overall mental health. It raises our default happiness score. Helping others isn’t limited to financially helping the poor; it can be something as small as helping someone cross the road, giving up your seat while on public transport to someone who needs it more, feeding a stray dog, or getting yourselves a pet dog and looking after it. It can also be something as big as solving a problem with your product or service (and making money in the process). The key is the selfless act, regardless of scale.
Even the opposite is true. We feel unhappy when we aren’t able to help people in need. Think of the second COVID wave in India, how helpless and unhappy we felt because we weren’t able to do anything for those in need of oxygen, hospital beds, and medicines.
So, while checking stuff off in your bucket list and getting yourselves the latest model of a Smart TV is great, helping others is the only long-term route to happiness.
PS: If you have come this far, you will be interested in the Book Summary video of Man’s Search for Meaning.
