The word ‘commitment’ may mean different things to different people.
For a 15-year-old chap, it may just be a word his girlfriend repeatedly uses to bring some legitimacy in their relationship. For a 25-year-old girl, it could be a decision to get married and for a 35-year-old man, it could mean a decision to quit alcohol. You get the idea.
Of course, depending on different situations, decisions may come at different ages. For the record, by no means am I suggesting women should get married at 25 😊
Nonetheless, the fact is that ‘commitment’ is a big deal and nobody just readily gets into one. We all need the time to analyze, to think through and then take a decision. Atleast that is how it should be. But along the way, there are a few things that we must avoid. Some are below,
“It is not my problem and I don’t need to change. I am perfect, there is nothing wrong with me and I am the way I am. Also, this is not important to me.”
Come on now, who are we fooling here? Nobody is perfect and everyone needs to get better. We must always truly ask ourselves if we are dodging a commitment for a true reason or just plain arrogance.
2. The Past
“I have been heartbroken before. I cannot get into a relationship, it’s just too much pain.”
Well, Thomas Edison made 1000 unsuccessful attempts at inventing the light bulb. Yes, you aren’t as great as Edison but nobody is asking you to make 1000 attempts either! Point is, get over the past, stop living there.
3. Fear of failure
Arrogance and the past may be fueled by fear. What one may consider arrogance (or a negative past experience) could actually just be the underlying fear of failure.
“What if I fail, wouldn’t it be embarrassing?”
But what if you succeed? Wouldn’t that be great?
Of course, the probability of moving a wall is minuscule and one should avoid committing to something as vague as that. But then that’s exactly the reason commitments require time, analysis and deep thinking. Exclude ‘fear’ as a reason for not committing. Have the faith and take that first step.
Time for you to grab the stage now. I would love to know if you can share any other reasons as to why people avoid commitments. Also, once you have committed, take a cue from Salman Khan – “Ek baar jo maine commitment kar di fir to main apne aap ki bhi nahin sunta!”