Episode 18 – In this episode, I am sharing why men should take dressing up seriously, why it matters and 100 things (you read that right!) that happen when they do dress up.
Welcome to the Soya Says podcast this is episode 18. Let’s talk about dressing up.
Is it shallow to dress up? Do you think more importance should be given to what’s inside and not how someone’s dressed?
By the way those were trick questions. Whether you like or not, whether you yourself do it or not, whether you think its wrong, the fact is people look at others and make snap judgments.
Let me give you an example. You are on your first date. You are shabbily dressed because you know what matters is what’s inside and not the clothes.
How long do you think the person you are dating will take to know what’s inside? How pure of a heart and how golden of a person you are? Is one date enough? 2? 3? What makes you think the person you are dating will be willing to give you 2 or 3 chances and invest so much time into you just to find out what’s inside?
Actually, let me up the ante some more. Scrap this first date example. Assume you are appearing for a job interview. Will you dress up or would you want the interviewer to figure out the real you and how skillful you are? How much time do you think you have in this situation?
I assume you will cut the BS and actually dress up. That is because you want to make an impression. Someone who is generally dressed well is considered as someone who has his act together, is well organized in life and pays attention to detail. You can communicate all that by simply dressing up.
So what I want to propose today, is for you to give a damn about dressing up. It matters. There is loads of research and quotes and social experiments and other inspirational stuff out there that talks about dressing sharp but we are not going into it, we are just talking about the 100 reasons why you, Sir, need to dress up!
So in no particular order and with due respect to themodestman.com,
- Women check you out
- Men check you out
- Cars stop to let you cross the street
- You smile more!
- Strangers ask you for directions
- Friends start asking you for style advice
- Random people ask for style advice
- Your boss let’s you slide on that deadline
- You get the job (even though it wasn’t your best interview)
- People bring you into their inner circle. They want to collaborate with you and be around you because they like the way you make them feel. You project confidence and goodwill.
- People inherently trust you
- Some people dislike you
- People laugh at your jokes (even when they’re not very funny)
- Your friends make fun of you for being “metro” or even “gay”
- Your friends start copying your style
- You sometimes feel silly when experimenting with new looks
- You notice style mistakes everywhere
- At hotels, you sometimes get upgraded to a suite.
- You try hard not to judge people for making those mistakes
- You give (and receive) that small nod of approval to other well-dressed men
- People smile at you more
- You detest clothes that don’t fit
- All of the sudden, half your wardrobe doesn’t fit
- You cringe when you see old pictures of yourself
- You’re not as impressed with other well dressed people.
- You see collar gap all the time, everywhere (especially on celebrities)
- You have mornings where you effortlessly just nail your outfit
- There are days when you’re late to work because you can’t figure out what you want to wear
- People compliment you regularly
- You resist the urge to tell random strangers to get their pants hemmed
- You expect more of yourself. Other people expect more of you.
- You start to expect the occasional compliment
- Women who never noticed you before notice you
- You feel the urge to get (or stay) fit
- Suits become comfortable
- You acquire accessories (sunglasses, watches, belts)
- You acquire more accessories (bags, ties, pocket squares)
- Your apparel budget triples
- Women mind less when they catch you checking them out
- You notice the style details (good or bad) in everyone you see. You become an expert people watcher.
- Men become jealous of you
- People expect you to act like you dress
- People expect you to be well spoken
- Everyone says ‘hi’ to you
- You ask random men for advice on style forums
- You critique outfits for random men on style forums
- Acronyms like MFA, OCBD, DB, and MoP mean something to you
- People assume you’re the boss or work at high end establishments, they assume you have money, that you own the Lexus or Mercedes parked out front.
- Older people assume the best about you
- Superiors at work take you more seriously
- Cabs always pick you up
- You realize that going sockless can be delightful
- You get comfortable with people looking at you
- You give half your clothes away
- Baristas and servers remember your name
- You start hating business casual (you’d much prefer just casual or dressy)
- Bartenders serve you first.
- You stop wearing sneakers
- Every time you wear loafers your friends say: “Oh, you’re dressing up? Now I have to change!”
- You’re girlfriend becomes proud of you in a new way
- You begin to understand the power of appearances
- Shopping becomes sport
- You constantly receive packages in the mail
- You always have something that needs to be returned
- You consider moving just to get more closet space
- Your dry cleaning bill quadruples
- It all starts to make sense. You can make smart, confident decisions about what goes with what. You start trusting yourself when something doesn’t look right, and you know why.
- You hate being underdressed
- You overdress sometimes (but it’s better than being underdressed)
- You know your measurements
- You understand why women love walk in closets
- In meetings, people let you speak
- The top drawer of your dresser fills up with buttons, collar stays, pins, sewing kits and cuff links
- You start following style blogs…lots of style blogs
- Sunday becomes wardrobe maintenance day (laundry, shoe shining, ironing)
- If you’re a young guy, people assume you’re older. If you’re an older guy, people assume you’re younger.
- Grooming becomes much more important
- You experiment with different hairstyles
- Women value your opinion about their style
- You look forward to cold weather (layers!)
- Packing becomes more difficult
- You always want to dress appropriately for the occasion
- You get your shoes shined
- You inspire change in those around you. Your friends and colleagues see how confident and put-together you look, and it gives them a (positive) kick in the pants to up their game.
- You get to know a cobbler
- And a watch repairman
- Outfits and hairdos that you assumed you couldn’t pull off become viable options
- You learn how to iron
- You ditch your college jeans
- You realize just how versatile a good pair of chinos is
- Your wardrobe expands significantly
- You long for a lean, versatile wardrobe
- Your posture starts to change.
- People assume you’re wealthy
- Cardigans and Henley shirts become wardrobe staples
- You feel guilty when you hang a nice shirt on a cheap wire hanger
- You acquire wooden hangers and shoe trees
- You get noticed. People remember you as the guy who’s ‘always dressed up’.
- You become happier
- You keep pushing yourself, because it’s a journey, not a destination
So here’s the thing. Are some of these points total BS? Absolutely. But do some of them make sense? Absolutely. The one thing that I want you to take away from this podcast episode is to start giving a damn about how you are dressed and realize the fact that it matters.